Good stuff! I read these over and over and over.

"In the book No-Drama Discipline by Tina Payne Bryson, PH.D. and Daniel J. Siegel, M.D., it says this - “When they feel our love and acceptance, when they 'feel felt' by us, even when they know we don't like their actions (or they don't like ours), they can begin to regain control and allow their upstairs brain to engage again. When that happens, effective discipline can actually take place.”

"When this happens repetitively – she's upset, you meet her with calmness and help her calm herself – this pathway gets strengthened in her brain, and this becomes her pattern. She learns to calm down before she reacts. On the other hand, if you meet her downstairs brain with your downstairs brain, both of you angry and shouting, then that's unfortunately the pathway that gets strengthened, and this will become her pattern."

More from Rebecca Eanes. Read the whole thing at Creative Child..